How Does a Dinner Date Work?
Are you the person who gets nervous and clammy, when it’s time for a dinner date? Maybe you’ll find some comfort in knowing how dinner dates and conversations work.
The concept of a dinner date never changes, yet most of us complicate it making it something nerve-racking. Let’s start with where the dinner should be. If you’re the man, you should offer to pick your lady up, but if she declines and wants to meet you, pick a place that is not to far from her. After all, you are trying to keep her interested in you. Don’t turn her off by inconsiderately picking a place far away.
For those of you who are worried she won’t like the place you pick it’s perfectly okay to play up how much you value her wants and ask her to pick a place, but keep in mind many ladies will like how alpha you seem when you plan the whole date and all she has to do is show up.
Now that you are at the date, what do you do? Be polite! This goes for both the ladies and the gentlemen. Being rude to your date, waiter, or those around you is not appealing and is definitely a turn off for most people. No one wants to feel like they are on a date with a jerk. Be nice, chew with your mouth closed and use your dining utensils (PLEASE!).
Fellas, go the extra mile and pull out the chair for your date and be sure to open doors. Do what you can to make her feel special. Remember what she was drinking and ask if she would like you to order her another glass. It’s the little things that will make you stand out.
Ladies, let your guy know that you’re into him. Gently touch him throughout the date, if it’s going well. Smile at him often and say thank you when he does nice things for you. You’d be surprised how many women don’t say thank you for things that are expected. It may seem silly because in your mind “He’d better open that door!” but to him letting him know you are thankful could mean a lot.
We’ve talked about behaviors quite a bit, but what about conversation? Keep it light, but not too light. Get to know the person, but don’t discuss why you are an atheist or why democrats are crazy on the first date. Make sure you expand on what your date is talking about to show you are actually interested and listening. If you don’t know much about the topic ask questions and remember having your own point of view is attractive.